High School 101: Essential Tips for Your Rising 9th Grader

As the new school year approaches, your rising 9th grader is likely feeling a healthy mix of excitement and apprehension about high school. As a parent, you may also have mixed emotions, remembering your own freshman year while thinking about the academic and social challenges ahead. While these concerns are valid, it's important to know that with the right support, your child will thrive. Here are six tips to share with your rising 9th grader:

Tip 1: The Clock Starts Ticking on Day One

Help your child understand that their GPA starts from the first day of high school. Emphasize the importance of staying diligent with their workload from the beginning. According to the College Board (2020), students who maintain a high GPA throughout high school have a higher likelihood of being accepted into their college of choice. Starting strong will prevent the struggle of trying to recover from a poor start.

Tip 2: Own the Journey

Encourage your child to manage their time and stay organized. High school requires more independence, and students need to take responsibility for their assignments and deadlines. The American Psychological Association (APA, 2019) found that students who use organizational tools like planners are better equipped to handle their responsibilities, which prepares them for the increased autonomy of college life.

Tip 3: Ask for Help

Remind your child that seeking help is a sign of strength. Teachers and counselors are there to support them, but they can only do so if students communicate their needs. According to the National Education Association (NEA, 2021), students who seek help from teachers are 30% more likely to improve their grades. Encouraging your child to ask questions and seek feedback can significantly enhance their academic success.

Tip 4: Be a Risk Taker

High school is a time for personal growth through academics and extracurricular activities. Encourage your child to step out of their comfort zone by trying new classes, joining clubs, or participating in sports. The National Association for College Admission Counseling (NACAC, 2019) reports that students involved in extracurricular activities are more likely to develop leadership skills and achieve higher academic performance. Additionally, project-based learning (PBL) is becoming popular for enhancing critical thinking and problem-solving skills by working on real-world problems.

Tip 5: Set Limits

While it’s important to get involved, it's equally crucial to maintain a balance. Good grades and a healthy social life are not mutually exclusive. Teach your child to prioritize their workload and manage their time effectively to avoid burnout. This balance will help them succeed academically while still enjoying their high school experience.

Tip 6: Seize the Day

Urge your child to adopt the carpe diem approach. High school years fly by, and it's important to make the most of them. Encourage them to graduate with no regrets and to take advantage of every opportunity.

KQ: A Listening and Experienced Ear

As children transition into their teen years, they can greatly benefit from the nurturing counsel of seasoned mentors. Keating Quigley provides ongoing, age-appropriate coaching for students approaching high school. Reach out to us: we’re just a phone call or email away.

Here’s to a rewarding 9th-grade experience for your child, packed with tremendous growth, enriched exploration, and exceptional opportunities!

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Sources

• American Psychological Association

• National Association for College Admission Counseling

• National Education Association

• College Board

• National Center for Education Statistics

Written By Keating Quigley | Educational Consultants

What Kids Worry About When Going Back to School

As summer winds down and the school year approaches, many middle and high school students experience a mix of excitement and anxiety. While the return to school brings opportunities for learning and socializing, it also comes with a range of worries that can affect students' well-being. Understanding these concerns can help parents support their children through this transition. Here are some common worries kids have when going back to school and how parents can address them.

Academic Pressure

One of the most significant worries for students is academic performance. Middle and high school students often feel the pressure to achieve high grades and meet the expectations of teachers, parents, and themselves. This pressure can be particularly intense during transitional years, such as starting middle school or high school.

According to the American Psychological Association, 31% of teens report feeling overwhelmed by their school workload. Parents can help by encouraging effective study habits, setting realistic goals, and prioritizing well-being. Open communication about academic expectations and providing a supportive environment can alleviate some of this pressure.

Social Challenges

Social dynamics play a crucial role in the school experience, and worries about fitting in or making friends are common among students. Middle and high school students may fear being judged or bullied, especially if they are entering a new school or transitioning to a different grade level.

A study in the Journal of Adolescent Health highlights that social anxiety is a prevalent concern among adolescents, impacting their ability to form and maintain friendships. Parents can support their children by encouraging participation in extracurricular activities and fostering open discussions about their social experiences.

Body Image and Self-Esteem

As children enter adolescence, they become more conscious of their appearance and may worry about body image and self-esteem. The pressure to conform to societal beauty standards and the fear of being judged by peers can be overwhelming.

The National Eating Disorders Association reports that body dissatisfaction is a significant issue among teenagers. Parents can promote a healthy body image by modeling positive self-esteem, discussing unrealistic portrayals in the media, and emphasizing the importance of inner qualities over physical appearance.

Navigating Relationships

Middle and high school students also worry about navigating relationships and the complexities that come with them. Concerns about dating, breakups, and peer pressure related to relationships can add to their stress. Parents can help by maintaining an open line of communication, providing guidance on healthy relationship behaviors, and respecting their child's privacy while being available for support.

Managing Time and Responsibilities

Balancing academic work, extracurricular activities, and personal life can be daunting for students. The fear of not having enough time to complete assignments, participate in activities, and still have time for relaxation is a common concern.

According to the National Sleep Foundation, teens need about 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night, but many fall short due to their busy schedules. Parents can assist by helping their children create a balanced schedule, encouraging good time management skills, and emphasizing the importance of rest and self-care.

Fear of the Unknown

For many students, the uncertainty of a new school year brings anxiety. Questions about new teachers, new subjects, and new routines can create a sense of fear.

Parents can ease this fear by helping their children prepare for the new school year. Visiting the school, meeting teachers, and discussing what to expect can provide a sense of familiarity and reduce anxiety. Encouraging a positive attitude and focusing on the opportunities for growth can also help students feel more confident.

Final Thoughts

Understanding the worries that middle and high school students face when going back to school is crucial for providing the right support. By addressing academic pressures, social challenges, body image concerns, relationship navigation, time management, and fear of the unknown, parents can help their children navigate this transition more smoothly. Open communication, reassurance, and practical support can make a significant difference in easing their anxieties and promoting a positive and productive school year.

Need More Help? Reach Out to Keating Quigley Today

If you're seeking expert advice and guidance on any aspect of your child’s education, contact Keating Quigley today. We are here to support your family and ensure your child's educational journey is a successful and enjoyable one. Email us now to learn more about how we can help!

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Sources

• American Psychological Association (APA)

• National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)

• National Sleep Foundation

Written By Keating Quigley | Educational Consultants

Is Your Child Thriving? 5 Signs It Might Be Time for a New School

As parents, it's natural to want the best educational experience for your child. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, the current school environment may not be the right fit. Here are five signs that it might be time to consider a different educational setting for your child, whether they are in elementary, middle, or high school.

Sign #1: Decline in Academic Performance

If your child, who previously excelled or maintained steady grades, starts to struggle significantly, it may indicate that the current school environment isn't meeting their needs. This decline could be due to various factors such as teaching methods, classroom environment, or even peer influence.

Sign #2: Behavioral Changes

Noticing sudden changes in your child's behavior, such as increased anxiety, depression, or acting out, can be a red flag. These changes might stem from stress related to school. Pay attention to signs like school avoidance, frequent complaints about feeling sick, or changes in sleep patterns.

Sign #3: Lack of Engagement

If your child shows a lack of interest in school activities, subjects they once loved, or homework, it might suggest that they are not being sufficiently challenged or engaged. An educational environment that doesn't stimulate a child's curiosity can lead to disengagement and boredom.

Sign #4: Social Issues

Difficulty in making friends or experiencing bullying can be a significant indicator that a different school environment is needed. A nurturing and supportive school culture is crucial for a child's social development and overall well-being.

Sign #5: Unmet Special Needs

Children with specific learning or physical needs might require a more tailored educational approach. If their current school is unable to provide the necessary support, whether it's due to resources, expertise, or infrastructure, it might be time to look for an institution better equipped to meet those needs.

Resources

Deciding to change your child's school is a significant decision and can feel overwhelming. Here are some resources to help you navigate this process:

• GreatSchools offers school ratings and reviews that can help you find the right fit for your child.

• National Association of Independent Schools (NAIS) provides a directory of private schools and resources for parents considering a switch.

The Benefits of Working with an Educational Consultant

An educational consultant can provide personalized guidance based on your child's needs and strengths. Their extensive knowledge of schools and programs can alleviate the stress that comes with and uncertainty of changing schools, ensures informed decisions and ultimately clears the way for a smoother transition. Changing your child's school is a big decision, but with the right resources and support, you can find an environment where they will thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.

Take Action for Your Child's Future

If you recognize any of these signs in your child's current school experience, it may be time to explore new educational opportunities. Don’t wait for things to get worse—take proactive steps to ensure your child’s success and happiness. Start by researching your options, consulting with professionals, and considering the resources available. Your child's well-being and future depend on finding the right educational environment.

Keating Quigley is here to help. Contact us today to begin your journey towards a better fit for your child’s educational needs.

Written By Keating Quigley | Educational Consultants

Reflections On The School Admissions Process

Independent school admissions decisions are out and deposits are in, and the verdict... accepted, waitlisted or denied. For some, the outcome was just what they wanted, a spot at the school of their dreams. For others the decision was disappointing because they are on  a waitlist , or worse yet, denied. So what does this all mean?

Before I go on, I should tell you that my approach to school admissions is centered on self reflection and acknowledgement. I challenge you as parents, to take a non-linear approach to the school search by not making the process about a means to an end. Instead, push yourselves outside the box and use this as an opportunity to help your child build life skills. Life skills? What do they have to do with applying to schools? First, let us think about a few: admissions interviews, applications, school research, writing a resume, and time management. These are skills that all of us have to develop and use throughout our lives. So, why not start early?

“Learning without reflection is a waste. Reflection without learning is dangerous.”

-Confucius

The first step in this exploration starts with your child and getting them to understand who they are as an academic, a person, and general member of society. At this point, you are probably wondering at what age children can start identifying these skills. A middle schooler, with coaching, can easily start pinpoint some of their characteristics and qualities. Do not underestimate your child’s ability to recognize their strengths and weaknesses! 

I would argue that regardless of the admission decision, it’s important to reflect on the school selection process. What did you learn about yourself as a parent? What did you learn about your child? And last but not least, what should you be doing as a family going forward? For parents of middle or high school students, this should be viewed as an opportunity for your child to reflect upon their profile. Okay, so this sounds interesting... but, where do I go from here?

Take a step back before you move forward and ask yourself or your child:

• What did I or my child learn about their character?

• Did I/they discover anything new about their academic profile?

• Are extracurricular activities a significant part of the child’s life?

• Should we consider academic support or enrichment?

• Have I/we adequately researched and addressed the school programs that are a “best fit” match?

• Did we put enough emphasis on the school community and environment?

• Was the application process an emotionally balanced experience?

• Did I empower my child in their school search?

Do not feel like you have to have one big conversation about this. Instead, use this as an opportunity to start a dialogue. You might want to consider putting pen to paper before engaging in conversation to show that you put time and thought into understanding their school search. We all know how hard it is to strike a conversation with our middle or high school students. Seize the moment!

While many of you might be thinking, “my child has a spot in their first choice school so what’s all of this reflection about?” These are questions every parent should be asking themselves periodically as their child navigates their educational journey. Take a pulse along the way, and make sure that your child’s school is still appropriate based on how they are developing not only as a student, but as a person.

For those of you who are still waiting for a spot or are planning on going through the school application process again next fall, turn a negative into a positive, and use this time to reassess your child, and their school list. You might find yourself wondering if you should have done things differently. Remember, it’s never too late to redirect your thought process, and change your plan.

Jacquie Quigley | Partner | Keating Quigley Educational Advisors

Spring Break Reads: A Little Something for Everyone!

We thought Anne ROCKED it at her recent Is All Reading Good Reading? workshop. There was so much insightful content, the advice came thick and fast, and the questions asked were thoughtful and thought-provoking. We just love digging in deep with our KQ community of parents!

With so many people heading off for some well-deserved relaxation on the beach, the slopes, or the sofa, Anne has shared her list of current fave reads from the early childhood years through high school. She also included a few of the ‘grown up’ titles she discussed during the workshop. Take a look and enjoy reading them with your kids wherever you are over spring break… and just remember: all reading really IS good reading!

One last thing…don’t forget that Anne is available for essay guidance and one-on-one mentoring sessions. Email us any time to connect with her. Happy spring break reading everyone!

Anne’s Spring Break Reads

Early Childhood 

• Good Night Gorilla (notice no text - illustrations are the text), Peggy Rathman

• The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Eric Carle 

• Chicka Chicka Boom Boom, Bill Martin Jr., John Archambault

• The Snowy Day, Ezra Jack Keats 

• Island Born, Junot Diaz 

Elementary School

• Flora and Ulysses, Kate Di Camillo

• Wonder, R.J. Palacio

• Refugee, Alan Gratz 

• The One and Ivan, Katherine Applegate 

• New Kid, Jerry Craft (graphic novel)

Middle School 

• All American Boys (lots of profanity, but strong read!), Brendan Kiely, Jason Reynolds

•  Fault in our Stars, John Green 

• Simon vs. The Homosapiens Agenda, Becky Albertalli

• Booked, Kwame Alexander

• Out of My Mind, Sharon Draper

High School 

• Just Mercy, Bryan Stevenson 

• The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night, Mark Haddon

• The Things They Carried, Tim O’Brien

• Speak Laurie, Halse Anderson 

• Looking For Alaska, John Greene

Parents / Adults 

• Anxious People, Frederick Backman 

• Caste, Isabelle Wilkinson 

• Deacon King Kong, James McBride 

• The Hearts Invisible Furies, John Boyne

• Hidden Valley Road, Robert Kolker

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