The Parent Statement is an essential part of the independent day and boarding school application process. It’s a chance for admissions teams to get a glimpse into who your child truly is, beyond transcripts and test scores. We know this can feel daunting, especially for parents who aren’t used to writing about their children in such a detailed, introspective way. But don’t worry—you’ve got this! With thoughtful reflection and a bit of strategy, you can craft a Parent Statement that brings your child's strengths and personality to life.
Showcase Strengths
Admissions teams are eager to see who your child is on a day-to-day basis, so think about what makes them shine. What are they naturally good at? How do they approach challenges or opportunities?Sharing specific anecdotes not only paints a vivid picture but also makes the story more memorable for the admissions team. For instance:
Leadership: “When the class project hit a snag, Jamie stepped in to reorganize and motivate the group to complete the work.”
Resilience: “Emma’s determination to improve her math skills paid off when she raised her grade two levels in just one semester.”
Shine a light on Interests and Passions
Independent schools are eager to learn what lights your child up. Whether it’s science, art, athletics, or community service, showcasing their passions helps build a fuller picture of who they are. Don’t just list activities—explain how these interests shape your child’s character. For instance:
“Sophie’s love of reading has evolved into a passion for creative writing, and she’s now working on her first novella.”
“Max has found a sense of purpose through community service. Volunteering at the local soup kitchen has given him a greater appreciation for teamwork and social responsibility.”
By tying their interests to personal growth, you help admissions teams see how your child will engage with their new school community.
Reflect on Growth and Challenges
Growth is another key area schools look for. How has your child evolved over time? Have they overcome any challenges? Whether it’s learning to manage frustration in a sport, improving their writing, or learning to be a team player, these are all things schools value. Perhaps your child was initially shy but has become more confident through public speaking or team sports. This paints a picture of resilience and personal development.
You could write: “When Sara started school, she was hesitant to share her ideas in class. Now, she’s the one asking thought-provoking questions that spark group discussions.”
These examples of growth show that your child is adaptable and ready for the new challenges and opportunities that an independent school will bring.
For Younger Children: If your child is still in the early stages of development and may not yet have clear "passions" or challenges, talk about the traits they’ve already started showing. You can reflect on their early interests—curiosity, creativity, or perhaps an emerging talent for building things or solving puzzles. It’s okay if your child is still discovering who they are. Admissions officers appreciate seeing the foundation that’s being laid. For example, "Eli's teachers tell us that he’s always the first to comfort a friend who feels left out." This kind of insight can be invaluable in exemplifying their developing social and emotional skills.
Align with the School’s Mission
Schools are looking for students who not only excel in academics but also embody their values and thrive in their environment, so think about why this particular school would be the best fit for your child. How does your child fit into their mission? If the school focuses on leadership, for example, highlight moments where your child has shown leadership traits, whether on the soccer field or in the classroom.
For instance, “We believe the school's focus on hands-on learning will give Charlie the opportunity to channel his curiosity into productive, real-world problem-solving.”
Tip: Make it clear you’ve researched the school. Mention any programs, extracurriculars, or values that resonate with your child’s strengths. This not only shows how well you know your child but also how thoughtfully you’ve considered their fit for the school.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Do:
Brag! This is your chance to share a heartfelt account of why your child is exceptional.
Be specific—share moments of pride and concrete examples that reflect your child's character and interests.
Stay true to your child's voice. Admissions officers can tell if a story feels too embellished.
Celebrate their unique strengths, areas of growth, and untapped potential.
Demonstrate how they are ready to meet the next challenge in their academic journey.
Don’t:
Write too broadly or with generic praise. Specific examples are what make the Parent Statement compelling.
Overthink or stress too much—this is your chance to reflect and celebrate your child.
Write a novel! Admissions teams want you to tell your child’s story in a short, sharp, and sweet Statement. (Remember: yours is just one of many they will read.)
to Summarize…
Crafting the Parent Statement is a unique opportunity to share your child's true essence with admissions teams. It doesn’t need to be daunting if you approach it with authenticity and reflection. Focus on being genuine—highlight your child's strengths, personality, and growth in ways that feel real, not rehearsed. Remember, you're sharing who they are, not just what admissions officers might expect. With a thoughtful approach, your statement will resonate and help your child's application stand out for all the right reasons.
Need More Help?
At Keating Quigley, we believe every child has a unique story, and we’re here to help you tell it. Need assistance writing your Parent Statement or any other aspect of the application process? Email us today to get tailored, expert guidance through every step of the admissions journey.
