High School 101: Essential Tips for Your Rising 9th Grader

As the new school year approaches, your rising 9th grader is likely feeling a healthy mix of excitement and apprehension about high school. As a parent, you may also have mixed emotions, remembering your own freshman year while thinking about the academic and social challenges ahead. While these concerns are valid, it's important to know that with the right support, your child will thrive. Here are six tips to share with your rising 9th grader:

Tip 1: The Clock Starts Ticking on Day One

Help your child understand that their GPA starts from the first day of high school. Emphasize the importance of staying diligent with their workload from the beginning. According to the College Board (2020), students who maintain a high GPA throughout high school have a higher likelihood of being accepted into their college of choice. Starting strong will prevent the struggle of trying to recover from a poor start.

Tip 2: Own the Journey

Encourage your child to manage their time and stay organized. High school requires more independence, and students need to take responsibility for their assignments and deadlines. The American Psychological Association (APA, 2019) found that students who use organizational tools like planners are better equipped to handle their responsibilities, which prepares them for the increased autonomy of college life.

Tip 3: Ask for Help

Remind your child that seeking help is a sign of strength. Teachers and counselors are there to support them, but they can only do so if students communicate their needs. According to the National Education Association (NEA, 2021), students who seek help from teachers are 30% more likely to improve their grades. Encouraging your child to ask questions and seek feedback can significantly enhance their academic success.

Tip 4: Be a Risk Taker

High school is a time for personal growth through academics and extracurricular activities. Encourage your child to step out of their comfort zone by trying new classes, joining clubs, or participating in sports. The National Association for College Admission Counseling (NACAC, 2019) reports that students involved in extracurricular activities are more likely to develop leadership skills and achieve higher academic performance. Additionally, project-based learning (PBL) is becoming popular for enhancing critical thinking and problem-solving skills by working on real-world problems.

Tip 5: Set Limits

While it’s important to get involved, it's equally crucial to maintain a balance. Good grades and a healthy social life are not mutually exclusive. Teach your child to prioritize their workload and manage their time effectively to avoid burnout. This balance will help them succeed academically while still enjoying their high school experience.

Tip 6: Seize the Day

Urge your child to adopt the carpe diem approach. High school years fly by, and it's important to make the most of them. Encourage them to graduate with no regrets and to take advantage of every opportunity.

KQ: A Listening and Experienced Ear

As children transition into their teen years, they can greatly benefit from the nurturing counsel of seasoned mentors. Keating Quigley provides ongoing, age-appropriate coaching for students approaching high school. Reach out to us: we’re just a phone call or email away.

Here’s to a rewarding 9th-grade experience for your child, packed with tremendous growth, enriched exploration, and exceptional opportunities!

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Sources

• American Psychological Association

• National Association for College Admission Counseling

• National Education Association

• College Board

• National Center for Education Statistics

Written By Keating Quigley | Educational Consultants

What Kids Worry About When Going Back to School

As summer winds down and the school year approaches, many middle and high school students experience a mix of excitement and anxiety. While the return to school brings opportunities for learning and socializing, it also comes with a range of worries that can affect students' well-being. Understanding these concerns can help parents support their children through this transition. Here are some common worries kids have when going back to school and how parents can address them.

Academic Pressure

One of the most significant worries for students is academic performance. Middle and high school students often feel the pressure to achieve high grades and meet the expectations of teachers, parents, and themselves. This pressure can be particularly intense during transitional years, such as starting middle school or high school.

According to the American Psychological Association, 31% of teens report feeling overwhelmed by their school workload. Parents can help by encouraging effective study habits, setting realistic goals, and prioritizing well-being. Open communication about academic expectations and providing a supportive environment can alleviate some of this pressure.

Social Challenges

Social dynamics play a crucial role in the school experience, and worries about fitting in or making friends are common among students. Middle and high school students may fear being judged or bullied, especially if they are entering a new school or transitioning to a different grade level.

A study in the Journal of Adolescent Health highlights that social anxiety is a prevalent concern among adolescents, impacting their ability to form and maintain friendships. Parents can support their children by encouraging participation in extracurricular activities and fostering open discussions about their social experiences.

Body Image and Self-Esteem

As children enter adolescence, they become more conscious of their appearance and may worry about body image and self-esteem. The pressure to conform to societal beauty standards and the fear of being judged by peers can be overwhelming.

The National Eating Disorders Association reports that body dissatisfaction is a significant issue among teenagers. Parents can promote a healthy body image by modeling positive self-esteem, discussing unrealistic portrayals in the media, and emphasizing the importance of inner qualities over physical appearance.

Navigating Relationships

Middle and high school students also worry about navigating relationships and the complexities that come with them. Concerns about dating, breakups, and peer pressure related to relationships can add to their stress. Parents can help by maintaining an open line of communication, providing guidance on healthy relationship behaviors, and respecting their child's privacy while being available for support.

Managing Time and Responsibilities

Balancing academic work, extracurricular activities, and personal life can be daunting for students. The fear of not having enough time to complete assignments, participate in activities, and still have time for relaxation is a common concern.

According to the National Sleep Foundation, teens need about 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night, but many fall short due to their busy schedules. Parents can assist by helping their children create a balanced schedule, encouraging good time management skills, and emphasizing the importance of rest and self-care.

Fear of the Unknown

For many students, the uncertainty of a new school year brings anxiety. Questions about new teachers, new subjects, and new routines can create a sense of fear.

Parents can ease this fear by helping their children prepare for the new school year. Visiting the school, meeting teachers, and discussing what to expect can provide a sense of familiarity and reduce anxiety. Encouraging a positive attitude and focusing on the opportunities for growth can also help students feel more confident.

Final Thoughts

Understanding the worries that middle and high school students face when going back to school is crucial for providing the right support. By addressing academic pressures, social challenges, body image concerns, relationship navigation, time management, and fear of the unknown, parents can help their children navigate this transition more smoothly. Open communication, reassurance, and practical support can make a significant difference in easing their anxieties and promoting a positive and productive school year.

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If you're seeking expert advice and guidance on any aspect of your child’s education, contact Keating Quigley today. We are here to support your family and ensure your child's educational journey is a successful and enjoyable one. Email us now to learn more about how we can help!

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Sources

• American Psychological Association (APA)

• National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)

• National Sleep Foundation

Written By Keating Quigley | Educational Consultants

College Chronicles by Charlotte G.

Meet one of KQ’s new Intern Bloggers! Charlotte grew up in Greenwich, CT. She graduated high school in 2020 and currently attends university in Virginia. Charlotte looks forward to sharing her perspectives and advice on academics, dorm life, and the joys along with the challenges of being a college student!

#1 - My top 10 Freshman Tips

Ah, as the beginning of the back-to-school commercials and sales come about, we’re reminded that summer is soon to come to an end. And for some, it means moving out and going to college for the first time. I was a college freshman last year and although it was an unprecedented year, every piece of advice I received from older siblings, friends, and adults remained just as, if not more, important. Trust me, I was terrified. Moving out after living in the same town and with my parents, my whole life seemed insane. I always knew I would go to college, but it always felt so far in the future, until it was right in front of me. 

And now, after my first year of college, I have never been more excited to return; I followed the advice from my friends and family which in turn made my freshman year one of the best years of my life. My hope is for yours to be just as amazing, so I am going to list some of the advice my friends and family gave to me that made me more cool, calm, and collected when heading into college. 

1. Balance Work and Play

   I think this is the most important piece of advice I was given. College is tough academically, and freshman year you are also thrown into the thick of social life. You are dying to meet people and make friends and acclimate to the school community. However, it is also important to prioritize schoolwork. Like myself, most college freshmen are experiencing living and studying away from home for the first time. This meant I had to adjust my study skills and truly learn how to manage time. I am a pretty social person, but I learned pretty quickly that to do well in school you have to balance both perfectly. It is okay to miss out on a couple of things in order to do better in school, and it is okay to not do your best on one project if you feel too overwhelmed with school. 

2. Get an academic planner 

   Getting an academic planner actually saved me. Without it, it is so easy to forget a small assignment that was just slipped out in the middle of class or something. I’ll link some below

   • Try this one

   • Or this!

3. If you have communal showers, Invest in shower shoes

   Please, who knows what’s on the floor in there! 

4. Buy headphones or earbuds 

   If you know you have a roommate, get yourself some headphones or earbuds if you don’t have any yet. No matter if you love or dislike your roommate, everyone needs a little alone time once in a while and with headphones, you can be in your own world without bothering the other person in the room.

5. Hold your judgments when meeting new friends

   It's totally okay not to be friends with everyone, but as a freshman, everyone is going through the same motions of making friends, and for some people, it's harder than others.

6. Try to make connections with your professors 

   It will only help you in the long run to have people in your corner! 

7. Don’t be scared to go to extra help sessions/office hours 

   It shows you really care about understanding the material and doing well, and will only help you to get extra help.

8. Be as outgoing as you can - even if it’s uncomfortable

   Although it's scary to be yourself, it's also the easiest way to find people that will be your best friends. Being genuine attracts people.

9. Immerse yourself in school spirit!

   Go to sports games!!! They are amazing and it is so fun to have school spirit. 

10. If everything is overwhelming you and you feel swamped, take a break 

    I had to take a lot of breaks this year, especially with corona, I felt my stress sometimes take over. The most effective ways I regrouped were working out, calling my mom or my home friends, going for a walk, or just watching a comfort show (my personal fav is New Girl)

Written by Charlotte G. | Blogging Intern at Keating Quigley Educational Advisors